I came across a Freshly Pressed post a couple of days ago, You Didn’t Thank Me For Punching You in the Face, and from what I could gather, the blogger who penned the piece is a mother of a ten-year-old girl who has been stolen from, pushed around, and has had her hair pulled by boys. Some people have suggested to Queenofthecouch and her daughter (Princessofthecouch?) that perhaps the boys in question who committed these crimes did so as a way to express affection. Queenofthecouch’s reaction was that any kind of teasing, harassment, etc. of girls by young boys is unacceptable, even if it is part of a boy’s prepubescent courtship display. She also describes all boys who engage in it, even in its milder forms as a way to express affection, as, and I quote, “little assholes”.
Before anyone thinks that I am about to condone the victimization of any child at the hands of other children, I want to make something perfectly clear… I don’t. I do, however, understand what’s going on. Bullying and some boys’ awkward expressions of affection often resemble each other, the way soap flakes resemble snow flurries on Christmas morning in the movies, but they are not the same. Let’s begin by taking a look at some of my personal ancient history in our quest for some insight into this problem. Continue reading